You’re not here to help everyone. That’s not even possible.
But you’re likely not even here to help everyone you can. Just because you can, doesn’t mean you should.
I know that sounds harsh but stick with me on this one.
Some people take on a victim mentality. They are not victims of crimes or assaults, but rather victims of perceived slights. Or they get themselves in situations and want someone to rescue them - again and again. My learning has been to avoid the drama and not take on the rescuer role.
In situations of actual need, there are often those squeaky wheels who get greater and more frequent help simply because they are squeaky. While we overlook the person who is quietly in much more need. My learning has been to triage and prioritize my energy towards those in most need.
Sometimes we need to put ourselves first, or, as the investment people say, pay ourselves first. A concept in the chronic illness world is around ‘spoons’ - how many spoons you have today and how you want to use those. The spoon theory is a helpful way to look at other situations as well. I used to put helping others first and, when I ran out of spoons, it was my needs that didn’t get met. This doesn’t mean that I don’t help others simply because I’m short on spoons. In emergencies, I work flexibly to dig deep into my spoons; maybe I skip some sleep but take a nap tomorrow or I pick up quality take out to get some nutritious food. But I can’t short my spoons day-in and day-out without verging into burnout or physical signs. And then I’m no good to anyone.
One of the biggest learnings for me has been ‘just because I can, doesn’t mean I should’. There’s an adage around giving projects to the busiest person because they’ll get them done. But this minimizes the opportunity and community responsibility for each person. We’re a world of 8 billion people. There’s lots of people who can help. We don’t need to take on everything that comes our way.
However, there is a group that I very often prioritize. I have felt this as a bit of calling for most of my life so this is not a suggestion for others to take on, but I am aware of others who feel similarly called and it can feel confusing on the surface until one recognizes the pattern.
I oftentimes focus my energy not on those asking for help or in obvious need, but on the helpers, healers, and leaders. I do this in all sorts of ways. It may be as simple as a card, small gift, or words of encouragement. It may be informal coaching, sessions, or time to hold space for whatever is coming up. These aren’t usually one-and-done helps and it also takes time to also build trust, most often through repeatedly showing up. Many of these are longer term investments - I can think of some that span more than 5 years. I help them have more spoons to do the work that they do. And yes, there are those who do this for me for which I’m extremely grateful!
We’re in a season of change where there will be a lot of true needs and perceived needs. You can’t help everyone. You also need to help yourself. Within all of that, who are you called to help? Perhaps an individual, a group, animals, the land, or a cause.
I find the people who have the clearest idea of their interest, focus, and/or purpose in life also have the clearest boundaries.
Each of us is needed. Each of us has needs. Honor the calling and purpose within.
Sometimes you do not pay attention to your life.
Sometimes, you let life happen and you allow things to just roll by you without actually noticing or seeing or weaving them into the tapestry of your life. When these happen, it is as if the threads really don’t connect very strongly in the tapestry of life and they are more frayed.
What is this tapestry? You may call it a harmonic. Simply put, it is the song of the universe that is woven from all the memories and experiences that are present. You can hear it in the sounds between the stars. You can feel it in the tree roots in the ground beneath your feet. You can find it the spaces where the veil is thin.
You see life as embodied linearity. We see consciousness as of ripples in every direction. Past lives, future lives, alternate choices all representing different areas in the consciousness ripples. And we are in ‘there’. You are in ‘there’. All the versions and all the different expressions. It is a dance.
What is the goal of all this dance?
To become more, more fully.
More fully what?
Just more fully.
Slow your pace of attention.
Notice. Notice life. Notice connections.
Be whole. Be fully you.
Our hearts need to unlock. Our hearts need to unblock.
Many of us carry thick walls around our heart.
We put them up for really good reasons, or so it seemed in the moment. We got hurt, betrayed, abandoned, minimized, abused, isolated, forgotten. Protection seemed important, even essential.
And then we experienced loss. Grief. Anguish. We let the walls get thicker, so we didn’t have to feel as deeply.
And then we read the news and learned of the ongoing atrocities committed by humans against each other, non-human beings, and the planet. And the frenzy incited by polarization to pit us against each other. We became overwhelmed. And we went numb.
Until, at some point, we realized that, in being numb, we’d also lost our joy, peace, and hope. And we wanted those back. No matter what it cost.
Our soul cannot experience the fullness of being human if we keep our heart in a box.
Unlocking my heart has been a long and ongoing journey.
I spent some time trying to figure out why my heart was locked. Down lots of rabbit holes only to really learn that it was often due to a mixture of reasons. Trying to find ‘the’ reason stopped making sense.
I turned my focus towards what would unlock my heart.
Painting and drawing helped quite a bit. These let me play with colors and explore shapes and textures. I experimented with different types of subjects and found a love of the abstract. It was a space I could get out of my head and just sort of be in the moment.
Reiki, tai chi, qigong, craniosacral therapy, neurochiropractic care, massage, myofascial work were also important because I was very disconnected from my body. These helped me connect inward and begin to learn to sense my body, notice my body, and feel my body. As I began to connect to my physical body, I was able to use that as an entry point to my emotional body.
For you, it may be music. Or yoga. Long conversations. Improv. Restoring old cars. Volunteering with the park system. Or, or, or.
The trick is to simply try something or some things. They’re all experiments, so know that if you don’t like it, you can stop – even midway through the first experience. ‘Do or do not, there is no try’ may work for the Force. But unlocking your heart is more of a spiral, rambling path. And you have full permission to explore the side trails as well.
It is your heart. You hold the key to it.
You have chosen to be here for such a time as this.
Every message etched in the moonlight,
whispered in your spirit,
tugging on your heart,
confirms that a shift is coming.
The time is now.
have chosen to be here
for this time.
Loosen the beliefs that bind you to the past.
You will not create your future
on the template
of the past.
Let go of judgment.
Do not lean into fear.
Rise above the drama.
Lean inward, into your heart.
You, yes you,
have chosen to be here
for such a time as this.
It is time to be.
It is time to be who you are called to be.
Around me, the leaves are dropping and it is really beginning to feel like autumn. And yet, in one of my gardens filled with leaves and drooping plants, is a flower. A pink spring/summer flower that thrives in warm and full sun.
Blooming out of season. Seemingly out of sync.
The more people I talk with, the more I hear about those who feel out of sync with those around them or the world in general.
They’re moving forward while others seem to be holding back. They’re holding back while others are saying, ‘now’s the time to jump in and go for it’. They’re excited while others seem disinterested. While others are sad, they feel happy. They’re hitting roadblocks while others seem to be flowing. They are doing well while others seem to be stumbling.
First off, we never really know what others are going through. We may be reading surface indicators … and there can be a lot under the surface. But it does seem that the energy threads feel quite different for different people.
So, if this is you, and you feel out of sync, here’s a couple of important points.
You’re not broken. You’re not doing it wrong.
Probably others around you aren’t broken, and they’re not doing it wrong either.
We’re all just on very different paths.
If it is your time to bloom, to grow, to shift, to change, to expand, to move, to open … then it is your time. Ignore the ‘season’. It is as if we’re all someplace around or on a mountain. We can encounter several very different ‘seasons’ in 2-3 thousand feet of elevation change.
So, your season can be very different from someone else’s.
If your season is to bloom, you do you.
Celebrate. And let us celebrate you.
We need whatever you are bringing into the world.
What is in charge of your energy flow?
Your high points? Low points? Triggers? Glimmers? The sun? Moon? Coffee?
Wheeeeeee! The energy is one wild roller coaster ride right now. And, if we let those things listed above be in charge of our energy flow, it is going to feel like being a ball in a pin-ball game.
Instead, we need to find our still point.
Our still point is found within. It is in our center. Our essence. Our connection.
It is from this still point that we have space to create and to process. It is from this still point that we have a solid foundation to move from.
Finding our still point does not require that things around us are peaceful. It does not require that others are calm.
The peace and the calm come from inside of us.
It is very much like riding a surfboard. The surfer has inner balance which translates to balance on the board which translates to riding the wave. The waves are gonna do what waves are gonna do. Are you going to let them crash over you or are you going to learn to ride them? That’s the big question of the current energy … which is going to continue well into 2025 … so we might as well start practicing now.
Learn to find your inner self and inner stillness. Whether it be through breathing exercises, running, yoga, meditation, journaling, spending time in nature, creating music, or whatever works for you.
It is helpful to have a buffet of options that fit the situation and to find some things that you can do in less than a minute. You won’t always have time to take a long bubble bath or go for a hike.
Here’s the beauty of learning to find stillness within: you always have it with you and you take it wherever you go. So, it is always accessible.
And, the peace and calm that you resonate out, can help create some peace and calm around you.
Therapist: what’s the best thing you can imagine if you try this new, exciting thing in your life
Me: I don’t die
Look, I can go from zero to worst case scenario in nothing flat. But it isn’t often helpful. It lowers my energy, moves me into depression and/or anxiety, can bring on unfocused anger and rage, and can leave me feeling hopeless and helpless.
I love the feelings of high energy, gratitude, and joy. I bet you do too. But our woundings in this life and the unhealed areas from past lives create a collective trauma lens that is readily triggered by anti-something and doomsday thoughts.
But, if we choose our response, we will also find the opportunity to finally let go of some of this stuff and heal.
A positive approach to life does not prevent bad things from happening to us. That might be a bit controversial in some circles where the belief is that if you just think enough positive thoughts, you’ll be rich, thin, and living a life of ease. But the evidence around us doesn’t support that. We often see bad things happen to ‘good people’ and good things happen to ‘bad people’.
When our energy is higher, more positive, and more grateful, we think better (tl;dr we move out of our amygdala ‘reptile brain’ and into our pre-frontal cortex ‘thinking brain’). When we think better, we come up with better solutions. And that’s what our world needs - new and better solutions.
The more we pay attention to what is happening in our body, the more we will notice these messages and shift our responses.
If we’re listening to someone and notice that we feel agitated, dread, helpless, or hopeless, it may be that we’re hearing one of the rage against the world or doomsday messages. These spread because they sell. They rile us up without moving us towards group solutions. They keep us stuck.
They keep us stuck.
Our systems truly do need change. We are being invited to take become unstuck. To step into our individual and collective power, to let our voice emerge, and to view things through our heart instead of that doomsday lens in our mind. These are part of our healing and the energetic shifts of these times.
Here's a recent video on YouTube - part 2 of 3 pivot points/invitations that are showing up now.
Energy pathways are opening and expanding.
Some of these openings are rooted in what we’ve intentionally released and let go of. Others are rooted in what we’ve lost or, perhaps, feel that have been taken from us.
Regardless of the path we took to get here, we are right now in the space between what has left and what is not yet.
This space in between is a convergence filled with a harmonious frequency which allows us to pull things together and make things happen. It could be around relationships, new ideas, healing, creating, building, anything.
However, we do need to stay in the middle of this convergence as the edges of the frequency have some yin/yang differences, just like any spectrum or range.
At one end, we can get caught in the weeds trying to plan every detail before we get started. If this is your style, you need to know that it ain’t gonna happen. We’re learning as we go. We’re building the bridge as we walk across it. We’re hiking without a map. Pick a metaphor but they’re all the same. We need to trust the process and trust our gut.
At the other end, we can run from shiny object to shiny object and never get started, or be so overwhelmed that we sit on the couch and distractify. If this is your style, you need to know that we might get some kicks in the seat of the pants to get started. It may feel like the chair gets pulled out from under us. We’re gonna have to jump into the pool and start swimming. Again, pick a metaphor but they’re all the same. Time to get started.
Once we get started, we will find that ideas, resources, and connections will come to us. We’ll find intuitive ways to create. And while our work will need discipline and diligence, it will also be a fun work. Work that we find of value.
The work of our purpose.
Here's a recent video on YouTube - part 1 of 3 pivot points/invitations that are showing up now.
Pschew! A bit of roller coaster energy right now. But importantly, underneath that, are opportunities for us to recognize, and release or move out of, old patterns that are no longer needed or no longer help us.
Practically, what does this look like?
You know that person that pushes your button? Or certain types of people who push your button?
What about the activity or substance that you use to calm yourself in certain situations?
How about the friend that you always reach out to first to initiate a get-together?
These are all patterns. Patterns are neither good nor bad, right nor wrong. They are simply patterns. Patterns only become problems when we become stuck, outgrow them, or they take us down paths that we’d like to change.
On the ‘fun’ side of the current energy, we will get the chance to break out of some of these old patterns.
On the less ‘fun’ side, we will get opportunities to actually see our old patterns. And, if you’re at all like me, sometimes I’m fairly appalled when I recognize my patterns which can even lead me into judgment and shame. Ugh! ‘Why do I still do that?’ ‘Why do I still let this happen?’ ‘Why haven’t I outgrown this?’
However, I’m a very different person than I was when I started those patterns. Those patterns may have kept me safe or were truly the best choice at that time in my life. Judging and shaming my younger self isn’t helpful.
Acknowledging that I can choose new patterns is.
As is recognizing that a future self may look back on my current patterns with a bit of raised eyebrows …
Feeling off-balance, like the ground is slippery and unstable?
We’re trying to hold onto the crumbling foundations of old beliefs while stepping into new beginnings. It just doesn’t work.
When we’re straddling between worlds like this, everything is off balance.
The energy of a whole series of retrograde planets is asking us to look at the shadow side of communication, power, trauma, and relationships. We’re being asked to look beyond the quick fix. To pull back the curtain of illusions and get to the root of the matter.
On the flip side of what can feel very heavy, is the opportunity for clarity, stepping into our inner power, allowing our voice to further emerge, and deep clearing and healing.
Stop trying to live between worlds. This is really a time to find your North Star - your values and truth. The hard part, for many of us, is that these may look wildly different than what we were brought up to believe.
The layers of programming that we’ve each taken in is staggering. While there has been very targeted marketing and spin in every system, most of what we grew up with wasn’t intentional. Instead, most was ‘that’s just the way we’ve always done it’ and ‘the good people’ sorts of stories and messaging.
Going deep into these layers isn’t comfortable because, at some point, we took those messages as ‘truth’ and let them become intertwined into our identity. Recognizing they are simply one perspective, and a perspective we don’t agree with, is step one.
But we can’t stop there or we’ll live in the in-between space with shaky foundations. It is like ripping out weeds. We have to pull these things out by the roots and then plant something else into the soil of our heart.
Check out this YouTube video on Three Themes for another way of looking at the current energy. This intuitive message uses cards and runes for the message structure.