There’s increasing numbers of individuals bumping into their spiritual path.
Sometimes this bumping resembles a hugely traumatic crash; other times, these seep in like a disorientating fog.
Often, these are people who have been quite entrenched in and reasonably satisfied with their lives. They’ve been successful in jobs, education, relationships, and hobbies.
And then, ‘things’ started happening.
They begin feeling like something is missing in their life.
They start asking questions about what they believe. Sometimes, these are also associated with dark nights of the soul or an existential crisis.
They begin to find emotions showing up that they’ve not felt in a long time, if ever.
They’re having different experiences. They know they’re not ‘crazy’, but they also don’t feel they can talk about these with their family and friends because they will be thought of as ‘crazy’.
They don’t know how to describe what is happening.
And through it all, there’s this strong heart pull towards a purpose. They feel like they ‘should’ be doing something, but they have no idea what it is.
Perhaps this is you. Perhaps it is someone you know.
There’s a strong energy flow right now for awakening of our spirit. This spiritual awakening isn’t tied to any religious or non-religious path. Instead, it is a path for us to remember who we are.
Each of us is a unique facet of divine source. The life we live is an expression of universal consciousness. We came here for a reason. For a purpose, or a series of purposes. To learn things. To help to create the future.
If this is you, you’re not alone.
But you may feel pretty lonely.
Begin to explore some things in the spiritual world that feel comfortable to you. Maybe it is a group sound healing, a yoga class, a Reiki session, or a mediation group. Whether it is in-person, online, or a combination, it is critical that you find your people and find your connections where your voice doesn’t have to walk on eggshells, you feel understood, and others seem to be asking the same sorts of questions that you are.
You’ll know you are finding your people and connections when your heart and soul begin to feel like you’ve come to a familiar place that you can’t quite remember.
There’s a resonance in your heart and soul that whispers home.
Sometimes, someone I know, work with, or care about, says or does something that hurts me. And, I’m 100% sure that I’m not the only person who experiences this.
Sometimes, I know for certain that they care about me. This isn’t a typical response for them and it’s not their heart to go out of their way to hurt someone.
But they just did. I just got hurt.
So, now what? Because despite Mercury being out of retrograde, there’s a tremendous amount of high intensity energy for change right now. Change often causes us, or those around us, to feel off balance and respond out of our hurts. So, you might be bumping into this more than you expect.
l can lash back and out and scorch the earth behind them. “Well, let me tell you about you, how you just hurt me, and everything else that has ever come up between us.” That typically exacerbates things and creates more drama trauma.
I can stuff it down. Ignore it. Pretend it didn’t happen. If you’re like me, you know how well that works. It festers and then this pent-up resentment, anger, or frustration comes out sideways and creates a lot of drama trauma. Usually in the least helpful moment, as well.
In times like this, I try to remember Brené Brown’s quote: All I know is that my life is better when I assume that people are doing their best. It keeps me out of judgment and lets me focus on what is, and not what should or could be.
If I can start with, ‘everybody is going through a lot, they are probably trying their best, and part of this is about them, not me’, then I am more likely to approach the situation in a way that is going to be helpful and not create more drama trauma.
I also try to remember that if something triggers me, it is because I have a trigger. There’s a bazillion things around me on any given day that could trigger me but, most days, most of them don’t. So, I what’s up with this one? I probably have a wound, a hope, or an expectation around it.
So, they’re not off the hook for what they said or did, but I also try to recognize that I might have something in me that is contributing to this situation.
So, this is where I try to dredge up some emotional intelligence.
I might start by telling the person, “Hmm, what you what you said hit something in me, and it hurt a bit. I clearly need to work on me and what got triggered, but I’m wondering if you would you consider phrasing that differently in the future or, if I’m doing something that bothers you, could you bring it up earlier so perhaps we could talk about it differently?”
As you can imagine, this is best when it comes out in fairly level, calm tone. [Ha!]
Also, sometimes, I need to walk away to dredge up this emotional intelligence. If I can (and I can’t always), I try to say something like “I need some time to think about that and I’ll circle back to this conversation later.”
I find that when I approach things in this way, I usually get some pretty quick information. Sometimes the person responds with a negative or antagonistic response. It feels like jab, jab, jab. Unless they come back with an apology and acknowledge the work they need to do to change their own behavior, that’s a relationship I need to rethink. If they’re stuck in trauma drama, they’re not someone I can grow with on my own journey. And, if I think I should stick with them to help them change, that codependency is gonna drag me down [and that’s a whole another topic!].
But if they respond with something like “oh, I’m sorry. I didn’t mean to hurt you but you’re right, I did say/do something hurtful. I value our connection and so I do need to figure out how to do/say this differently.”, well then this is a relationship everyone can grow in. We can support each other.
And even more than that, we can have fun and find joy.
And gratitude, peace, play, and joy are going to be big topics this season.
You body has an energy.
Medically and scientifically, your energy can be detected from beyond your body. This energy can be identified as waves, particles, vibrations, and frequencies.
Your energy doesn’t stop at the edge of your skin. And, the energy of others doesn’t stop at their skin.
Your energy can extend for several feet in every direction.
Your energy ripples out from you just like water rippling out after a stone is dropped into a smooth lake. The difference is that your energy is rippling out all the time.
And the energy of others is rippling out all the time.
Your energy impacts others and you are impacted by the energy of other people, beings, things, and spaces.
You know this if you’ve ever experienced an emotional outburst from someone across the room. You could feel it.
Some people ‘light up a room’. Some people ‘drain it’.
Some places feel holy and sacred. Some places feel toxic.
You might find yourself relaxing with your pet while being energized by a hike in the woods.
Own your energy.
You have the ability to modulate your own energy and to create your own energy boundaries.
I like to imagine that my energy field is surrounded by a ‘cell membrane’. This membrane keeps my energy from leaking out and helps select what comes into my energy field.
What do you allow into your energy field?
There are certain kinds of movies, music, food, and places that don’t settle well into my energy at this point in my life. These will be different for everyone so it is important to notice what feeds your energy in a way that builds love, compassion, and interconnection and what drains your energy or feeds your anger, fear, and separation.
Sometimes these drains are people. Providing someone a life preserver is quite different than being spiritually on call or providing support on demand.
If you find yourself in a consistently unequal energy relationship where you are not a caregiver or parent, try being unavailable at the next request and see what happens. If you are met with efforts to shame or bully you, it may be time to reconsider the time and energy you put into the relationship.
Finally, you may also find that you frequently take energy from others. We all need support at times but it is not healthy to consistently take energy from others without generating and maintaining our own.
Always drawing from others is just as harmful as never asking for or accepting support.
Your energy is a valuable resource. And, it is your energy. Are there ways to grow and expand how you own your own energy?
What’s going around right now is a bit of imposter syndrome. The fears and doubts that come with imposter syndrome can cause us to question our worth, play it safe, sabotage our work, keep us small, or dismiss our journey.
Here’s a few things in the energy world that might be accentuating feelings of imposter syndrome.
One of the antidotes to the feelings of imposter syndrome is to find your medicine.
Find your original medicine.
Original Medicine arises from shamanic traditions and is based on the belief that each of us has unique gifts and talents. These are our ‘original medicine’.
We came here to bring our original medicine into the world. Our world needs our unique gifts and talents.
Furthermore, we need them. We have a deep longing to live and express our original medicine. If we don’t, we always feel that some part of us is missing.
As you seek to know and explore your original medicine, it may be helpful to remember and contemplate on the following.
You are unique. Your path is unique. You don’t belong in the tiny boxes defined by the world around you but, sometimes, you try to squeeze into those to ‘fit it’ or for the approval of others. Instead, embrace the parts of you that seem different. These are parts that the world needs.
You chose to come here at this time. Yeah, I know. Life can feel hard at times. But if you are here right now, it is because you felt it was important to be here at this time. You came here with a ‘why’; there is a reason why you are here.
You have not lost your medicine. You’re never too old, and it is never too late. It may be that you have forgotten about your original medicine as you went about your daily life and tried to turn off that little spiritual voice of your soul. But your original medicine is not lost. As you seek it, you will find that it is seeking you as well.
Find your people. Find those who speak your language, the language of your heart. Find those who encourage you and allow you to encourage them. Find those with whom your voice is valued. The world we experience is a harmony of who we are individually, and who we are collectively.
Your medicine wants to be seen. Your fire is seeking to express. Start small, but start somewhere, somehow, someplace. Being seen doesn’t require a national platform or huge audience. Your’s may be within your friends or family. Everyone’s ‘being seen’ is different.
Center, root, and ground. To remain on your path, you need to care for your full self: mind, body, heart, soul, emotions, spirit, all of it, all of you. Your medicine is embodied work. Nurture yourself.
Welcome to 2023 and the new year!
The energy of this season is inviting us to be seen.
For some, this invitation is to allow ourselves to be seen by others. For some, this is an invitation to see ourselves.
Externally, there will be waves of change happening around us. Those waves of change will be happening regardless of whether we ride the waves or hunker down and let the waves crash over over us.
What will help us navigate these waves is our inner fire.
We’re being invited to the energy of our fire. To nurture our inner fire. To allow our inner fire to expand and rise. To allow our inner fire to be seen.
Our inner fire is fed when we acknowledge our personal sovereignty and take steps to set boundaries and ask for what we need. Sometimes we find that the person who most needs to hear what we need is ourself.
Our inner fire expands when we speak our truth in love. Speaking our truth sometimes looks like words and sometimes looks like actions. Speaking our truth isn’t about spewing our thoughts onto others to shame or 'encourage' them into changing. Speaking our truth doesn't require us to get on a soapbox and share our truths with everyone and anyone. Speaking our truth means getting really clear on what our truth is! Because then, our truth simply flows from us in how we live our life.
Our inner fire wants to be seen. Actually, it wants to shine. Don't worry, shining doesn't mean you have to be a flashy presence in the public eye. Think of yourself as a lighthouse. Just quietly shining in the storm. And if you're someone who loves sparkly glitter, then let your lighthouse shine with sparkly glitter. You be you.
Because you being you is what it is all about. You being you came here for a specific purpose. For some reason. You trying to be someone else isn’t helping anyone, much less yourself.
You be you. Because that’s the you the world needs.
That’s the you that you need.