This human that is you is a very interconnected being.
You are connected to source. To deep threads of love, belonging, and home.
You are connected to higher consciousness. To the vast library of wisdom and experiences.
You are connected to the cosmos. To the galaxies, stars, space, and the harmonic frequencies that flow between these.
You are connected to your planet. To the being of your planet and to all the beings on and within your planet.
You are connected to every other human. To a grid of human consciousness and the frequency of your heart energy.
You are connected to your timelines and lives, both physical and spiritual. To your ancestral generations, your past lives, and all the future ‘you’ that you already are and will become.
You are connected to all the molecules you have encountered, and those that those molecules have encountered. You are entangled in eternity.
And, within all of this, you are unique.
You are beautiful art.
You are a necessary melody in the tapestry of the universe.
You are you.
And because of all these connections, you are interconnected with everything else.
Intuition is nothing more than becoming aware of these connections.
You’re not here to help everyone. That’s not even possible.
But you’re likely not even here to help everyone you can. Just because you can, doesn’t mean you should.
I know that sounds harsh but stick with me on this one.
Some people take on a victim mentality. They are not victims of crimes or assaults, but rather victims of perceived slights. Or they get themselves in situations and want someone to rescue them - again and again. My learning has been to avoid the drama and not take on the rescuer role.
In situations of actual need, there are often those squeaky wheels who get greater and more frequent help simply because they are squeaky. While we overlook the person who is quietly in much more need. My learning has been to triage and prioritize my energy towards those in most need.
Sometimes we need to put ourselves first, or, as the investment people say, pay ourselves first. A concept in the chronic illness world is around ‘spoons’ - how many spoons you have today and how you want to use those. The spoon theory is a helpful way to look at other situations as well. I used to put helping others first and, when I ran out of spoons, it was my needs that didn’t get met. This doesn’t mean that I don’t help others simply because I’m short on spoons. In emergencies, I work flexibly to dig deep into my spoons; maybe I skip some sleep but take a nap tomorrow or I pick up quality take out to get some nutritious food. But I can’t short my spoons day-in and day-out without verging into burnout or physical signs. And then I’m no good to anyone.
One of the biggest learnings for me has been ‘just because I can, doesn’t mean I should’. There’s an adage around giving projects to the busiest person because they’ll get them done. But this minimizes the opportunity and community responsibility for each person. We’re a world of 8 billion people. There’s lots of people who can help. We don’t need to take on everything that comes our way.
However, there is a group that I very often prioritize. I have felt this as a bit of calling for most of my life so this is not a suggestion for others to take on, but I am aware of others who feel similarly called and it can feel confusing on the surface until one recognizes the pattern.
I oftentimes focus my energy not on those asking for help or in obvious need, but on the helpers, healers, and leaders. I do this in all sorts of ways. It may be as simple as a card, small gift, or words of encouragement. It may be informal coaching, sessions, or time to hold space for whatever is coming up. These aren’t usually one-and-done helps and it also takes time to also build trust, most often through repeatedly showing up. Many of these are longer term investments - I can think of some that span more than 5 years. I help them have more spoons to do the work that they do. And yes, there are those who do this for me for which I’m extremely grateful!
We’re in a season of change where there will be a lot of true needs and perceived needs. You can’t help everyone. You also need to help yourself. Within all of that, who are you called to help? Perhaps an individual, a group, animals, the land, or a cause.
I find the people who have the clearest idea of their interest, focus, and/or purpose in life also have the clearest boundaries.
Each of us is needed. Each of us has needs. Honor the calling and purpose within.
Sometimes you do not pay attention to your life.
Sometimes, you let life happen and you allow things to just roll by you without actually noticing or seeing or weaving them into the tapestry of your life. When these happen, it is as if the threads really don’t connect very strongly in the tapestry of life and they are more frayed.
What is this tapestry? You may call it a harmonic. Simply put, it is the song of the universe that is woven from all the memories and experiences that are present. You can hear it in the sounds between the stars. You can feel it in the tree roots in the ground beneath your feet. You can find it the spaces where the veil is thin.
You see life as embodied linearity. We see consciousness as of ripples in every direction. Past lives, future lives, alternate choices all representing different areas in the consciousness ripples. And we are in ‘there’. You are in ‘there’. All the versions and all the different expressions. It is a dance.
What is the goal of all this dance?
To become more, more fully.
More fully what?
Just more fully.
Slow your pace of attention.
Notice. Notice life. Notice connections.
Be whole. Be fully you.