You might have heard ‘your voice wishes to be heard’ or ‘speak your truth with love’. These statements are needed and timely. Voice is emerging and calling out what isn’t working in our systems and relationships, while also in urging us to a new future.
Sometimes what gets lost in this, however, is the need for silence.
Silence is in the time needed to explore finding our voice. The time needed to practice our voice, to listen to the sound of our own voice, to reflect on the words we choose to use.
Silence is in the time we need to understand our truth. The time to sort through what is it that we believe among all the stories we’ve been told and messages that we’ve internalized.
Silence is in the time we need to find the place of love and compassion in our heart. Love and compassion for the other. Love and compassion for the situation. And most importantly, love and compassion for ourself.
Silence is a powerful tool. It is integral for our growth.
Silence builds the foundation for our voice and our truth.
Where is silence calling you?
Many times we long for others to change. Other times, we fear that others will change. The reality is that we cannot change another, nor can we prevent them from changing.
People around us change. All the time. In big ways and little ways.
For many, there is tremendous transformation taking place. Sometimes this change is thrust upon them through loss, a bad diagnosis, or downsizing. Others initiate change by examining their beliefs, relationships, and the systems they live within.
Many people change quietly, over time by repeatedly building on small decisions. Some choose to allow the news to make them more fearful. More locks on the door. More hypervigilance. Others choose to try something new, create a daily practice, and connect to others who share this interest.
Sometimes in change, people can become deeply wrapped around more volatile emotions. They get riled up about (insert any hot-button issue) and they try to get the rest of us riled up too but it is often all angst with no action. These folks are in change mode also. They are using external triggers to explore their own internal landscape, especially their emotions. Angst is both the entry key and the lighter fluid on their internal flame. The unpredictability, combustibility, and pressure to join them can make it challenging or undesirable to be around their energy.
How do we come to terms with the person who has changed or is in change mode? Sometimes this is easy because their changes align with our personal path. This expands our common language and shared values making it easy to connect. For others, we struggle with their changes. Their path is quite different from ours. We may not understand their path, we may dislike their path, or we may wish we could take their path but are afraid to.
Part of the answer is to hold relationships sacredly with respect and honor, but lightly without clinging or binding. Each of us is likely to continue to change. However, we typically do not change at the same time, in ways that are comfortable for everyone, or even by staying on the same path. These are why we may naturally fade in an out of each others’ lives.
Honoring our path and another’s path sometimes means letting those paths move in different directions.
Holding these shifts without judgment allows us to be curious about the changes in someone’s life and path. Interestingly this often allows us to be more curious about the changes in our own life.
The news has been pretty busy recently with things being revealed in governments, leaders, and systems. While some had been suspected, the emerging hard reality is beginning to shake some foundations. There’s a sharp spikey darkness that is becoming harder and harder to ignore. The term ‘disclosure’ got tossed around a lot in relation to the release of the UFO files, however disclosure actually has much more to do with revealing the oftentimes ‘shadowy’ operations behind the curtain and how these impact our day-to-day life.
This same ‘disclosure’ energy is also playing out with each of us an individual way. We’re coming face-to-face with our own beliefs and the shadows within ourselves and our relationships. Some of these are also pretty sharp and spikey. Right now, there’s a whole lot of us feeling like life is messy and hard.
There is decidedly a wave of ancestral healing that is occurring across our planet. It isn’t new; it has been occurring across the world in various spaces and peoples for a while and will continue for another several years at least. But what is new is how widespread this is across the world right now.
Exploring our individual and ancestral heritage often brings grief and sadness. The grief from the land which was forced to hold the space for human atrocities. The sadness over what might have been. The trauma that gets passed down the generations through epigenetics.
Within all of this mess however is the opportunity for us to consider how we wish to be, how we wish our world to be, and the future we wish to create. With the ancestral clearing also comes an opening of ancestral power. How will we use it?
Are we ok with shadowy hidden agendas in our systems that create divisiveness, marginalize groups and individuals, restrict freedom, and continue to damage the planet? More people are beginning to step out of line, pushing against rules and systems that no longer seem to make sense and pushing for more whole and interconnected ways of being.
Are we ok with shadowy passive aggressive, codependent, conflict in our relationships that creates shame/blame and generational trauma? Relationships are falling apart at epic rates. However, there’s also epic rates of new relationships, different kinds of relationships, and newfound comfort with being alone. Many are finding their ‘people’; not echo chambers, but others who are doing the hard work of developing emotional intelligence and creating microcosms of community.
Finally, and most importantly, are we ok with shadowy parts of ourselves that we have kept hidden, preferring instead to focus on the need for others to change before we step into our purpose and authentic self? Or are we ready to step into the freedom and authentic power of who we came here to be?
Throughout the world, the pendulum continues to swing into areas of heartbreaking divisiveness, control, and fear. And yet, many are beginning to feel the threads of hope in the atmosphere. How can these coexist?
The divisiveness, control, and fear that we are experiencing are peeling back the layers on just how deep these systems fold into our history, beliefs, and consciousness. We’re breaking open the stories we’ve been told or that we have told ourselves. It is as if it had to get this bad for some of us to wake up and notice. The grief that many feel goes deep and opens windows for releasing personal, ancestral, and collective grief. It is not that we had to take this route to see change but change will be the outcome.
And this change brings hope.
The pendulum’s arc is slowing. Those who watch the horizon can sense the waves of change making their way to shore. You may already be seeing the early waves – new ideas and a heart focus.
Some of these new ideas will be the beta versions that will help clear a path for more sustaining innovation. As systems outlive their function, new ideas generate at the periphery. Some work, some don’t. But over time, there is continued layering of change until we hit a tipping point of sustainability. In addition, the innovation contains a creative energy and one that can carry hope – as well as fun and playfulness.
So, even though there is a battle to maintain the status quo or even go backwards by some, allow yourself to feel the opportunities for change and the opportunities for hope that are also emerging.
It may be that you are in too deep of grief or trauma to contribute much to the changes around you. That’s ok. Take care of yourself and know that you will get the chance to help create in the future. Hold onto that hope.
But if you are feeling that your time is now and you have some interesting ideas emerging, follow your heart, soul, and intuition and step into that which is calling you. Not only will you be building into your hope, you will also be creating hope that helps to change the atmosphere around you.