Time to change the story.
The story each of us is telling ourselves. The one that keeps us in our rut.
It is the story that keeps us feeling safe and comfortable. It may keep us from stepping forward into our purpose. It may keep us from allowing our voice to emerge. It may keep us from acknowledging something in our past that we’d prefer simply stay hidden.
After all, we’re doing good things. Important things. We’ve got commitments and obligations.
And anyway, we can work on that thing tomorrow. Next week. Next year. When we get the next job. When the big bill is paid off. When the kids are a certain age.
The story keeps us safe and comfortable.
But we didn’t come here to be safe and comfortable because safe and comfortable keeps us stuck in fear and stuck in a rut. We came here for a why. We came here for a purpose.
The energy right now is turbulent but it is also deeply transformative.
Do the thing. The smallest step, the smallest action that your heart is calling you towards.
Tomorrow, do the next thing.
Your horizon expands with each step you take through the fear.
Right now we have things coming up around boundaries and healing. This includes a karmic aspect with the opportunity to clear some wounds that we carry and to rethink how we do boundaries.
The image that keeps emerging is that of a crumpled plastic water bottle like the one on the left.
When we get wounded, whether it be physically, emotionally, mentally, spiritually, or some combination, we can get crumpled, dented, and bent out of shape just like that plastic bottle.
And then, to protect ourselves, we can shut ourselves down tight. We screw a lid on our energy. We think that, by keeping everything out, we will be safer.
We may also find that we start using our wounds as boundaries. Everyone one of those crumples, dents, and bends contains anger, resentment, shame, and judgment. So our boundaries become a response to what has happened to us instead of what we want to happen. It is why we can lash out with any and all of those emotions when we finally begin to work on boundaries and we feel that someone just crossed one!
So, how do we heal?
Unfortunately, we can’t take that plastic bottle, with the lid screwed on tight, and ‘pull’ all the crumples, dents, and bends out of it.
If we want to have our boundaries look more like the vase on the right, smooth, clearly defined, and easily fillable, we have to do two things.
First, we’re going to have to take that lid off. We have to begin to open ourselves up so we can let things in. And yes, that can be scary!
Everybody does this differently. Counseling, body work, meditation, self-help books and groups, and energy work are various examples that some have used on their healing journey. You may find one or multiple ways that help you.
Secondly, we actually have to begin to let things in. Specifically, we have to let love in.
Now right there, some of you just thought "nope, that’s how I got hurt in the first place. Not trusting anyone enough to let them in".
That’s ok. You don’t have to let someone in. But you do need to let love in.
That love can be the love of nature. Go lay in a meadow, listen to the heartbeat of the earth, watch the clouds, and let nature’s love connect to your heart. Let yourself be loved.
It may be the love of a pet or of animals that you can connect with. Really feel the love that they carry. Feel the unconditional love they have for you.
It may be that you can let in the love of someone you trust, or the love from little children. Feel that love and let yourself be loved.
Or perhaps the love you can let it is the love from spirit, or angels, or the cosmos, or the divine. Feel and know that you are loved.
And finally, also let your own love in. Place your hands on your heart and let yourself love yourself.
This love is what pushes out the crumples, the dents, and the bent parts. This love is what fills us up and allows us to have some love to give to others - whether it be nature, animals, or people.
Being filled with love pushes out our boundaries. It helps us be very clear about where we end and where others begin - but from a space of being more comfortable in ourself rather from those wounded, crumpled edges.
If you’re feeling like that plastic bottle, the first step is to find a safe space and path to begin to allow that lid to come off. Many find this easier if there is someone or a process to help support them. As you begin to open, even just a little, also seek the places where you can let love in.
Because you are loved. And you are love.