You body has an energy.
Medically and scientifically, your energy can be detected from beyond your body. This energy can be identified as waves, particles, vibrations, and frequencies.
Your energy doesn’t stop at the edge of your skin. And, the energy of others doesn’t stop at their skin.
Your energy can extend for several feet in every direction.
Your energy ripples out from you just like water rippling out after a stone is dropped into a smooth lake. The difference is that your energy is rippling out all the time.
And the energy of others is rippling out all the time.
Your energy impacts others and you are impacted by the energy of other people, beings, things, and spaces.
You know this if you’ve ever experienced an emotional outburst from someone across the room. You could feel it.
Some people ‘light up a room’. Some people ‘drain it’.
Some places feel holy and sacred. Some places feel toxic.
You might find yourself relaxing with your pet while being energized by a hike in the woods.
Own your energy.
You have the ability to modulate your own energy and to create your own energy boundaries.
I like to imagine that my energy field is surrounded by a ‘cell membrane’. This membrane keeps my energy from leaking out and helps select what comes into my energy field.
What do you allow into your energy field?
There are certain kinds of movies, music, food, and places that don’t settle well into my energy at this point in my life. These will be different for everyone so it is important to notice what feeds your energy in a way that builds love, compassion, and interconnection and what drains your energy or feeds your anger, fear, and separation.
Sometimes these drains are people. Providing someone a life preserver is quite different than being spiritually on call or providing support on demand.
If you find yourself in a consistently unequal energy relationship where you are not a caregiver or parent, try being unavailable at the next request and see what happens. If you are met with efforts to shame or bully you, it may be time to reconsider the time and energy you put into the relationship.
Finally, you may also find that you frequently take energy from others. We all need support at times but it is not healthy to consistently take energy from others without generating and maintaining our own.
Always drawing from others is just as harmful as never asking for or accepting support.
Your energy is a valuable resource. And, it is your energy. Are there ways to grow and expand how you own your own energy?